Updated: Apr 19, 2021
Don’t feel guilty! Chores are actually GOOD for children. There’s enormous value in having your children help around the house.
First, understand that it’s not about having a cleaner house. (That’s just a happy by-product.) Getting your children to do chores is about instilling a work ethic. It’s about teaching important life skills. It’s about having your children understand that everyone has to do their part. It’s about learning that in life you frequently have to do stuff you don’t want to — and you need to do it with a good attitude. It’s all about building character.
Reason #1: Learning a Strong Work Ethic
If you want your children to be responsible and successful in life, teach them to work. While there are many other factors that contribute to success, hard work is at the top of the list. Read almost any biography of a successful person, and you’ll find the common denominator among them all is hard work. And most of them started working at a very early age. Of course, do everything in moderation. While children need to be taught a strong work ethic, they also need time to play and be kids. But there’s plenty of time in the day to do both.
Reason #2: Learning to Help Others
One of the most important lessons I wanted to teach my boys was that helping others is the kind thing to do. It is NOT NICE to make someone else do all the work. It’s rude and selfish. It’s rude to expect your mother and/or father to do all the work. It’s rude to make future roommates, coworkers, and spouses do all the work.
Our children need to learn that everyone has to do their part. Otherwise, they grow up spoiled with a sense of entitlement. We want our children to grow up to be productive, not a burden to society or the family.
My mother constantly reminded me, “Many hands make light work.” By having everyone contribute to the household chores, the workload will be done faster and moms and dads will have more time to play and interact with their kids. An added bonus to having your kids help out is your children will have a better appreciation of all the work you do around the house.